LIFESTYLE: Four Agreements – A life changing Journey

In his book The Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz describes four guidelines which we can practice to create more freedom, happiness and love in our lives. The Four Agreements are:

1.Be Impeccable with your Word

  • Speak with integrity.
  • Say only what you mean. 
  • Be truthful.
  • Avoid speaking against yourself or gossiping about others. 
  • Say things that have a positive influence on yourself and others.

2. Don’t Take Anything Personally

  • As each person sees the world in a unique way, what others say and do is a projection of their own way of thinking.  
  • By not taking anything personally, you acknowledge the unique identities of other people. 
  • You respect their subjective realities, realizing that their views do not necessarily describe you accurately.  
  • When you are not influenced by the opinions and actions of others, you will suffer less. 

3. Don’t Make Assumptions

  • Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. 
  • Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings and drama. 
  • Ask for evidence before concluding what people are thinking. In this way, you avoid mind reading which could be wrong and lead to undesirable consequences. 

4. Always Do Your Best

  • By doing your best under any circumstance, you are more likely to achieve your goals.
  • You are also more likely to avoid self-judgment and regret.
  • In doing “your best”, try not to push yourself too hard. This could cause pain, injury and mistakes. 
  • Also, recognize that your “best” may vary from moment to moment.
  • Your best when you are healthy may be different from your best when you are ill.  
  • To a certain extent, you are always doing your best. Realizing this, your inner critique can take a permanent vacation.  

Reference Ruiz, Miguel Angel (1997) The Four AgreementsA practical guide to personal freedom. San Rafael, California: Amber-Allen Publishing Inc.

Submitted by Wally Lazaruk, May 2019